William

The picture above is from my first grade class. I am

the little girl in the red turtleneck, and William de Herrera,

one of my best friends then, is on my left.

 I don't know if it still is, but back in my day, it was not "normal" for boys and girls to be friends and play at recess together. Yet, one of my best friends was William de Herrera. William, Michael, Vivian, and I often played together at recess, and even had nicknames for each other: Big Mouth, Blabber Mouth, Motor Mouth, and Jabberjaw. The names were always interchangeable; it just depended on who called it first.

There were shrubs against the back wall of Yucca Elementary where Vivian and I would take refuge behind one, and William and Michael would shield themselves behind another. Each one of us was either Army, Navy, Air Force, or Marine Corps, but would fight against each other in pairs of boys vs. girls. For example, Army/Air Force vs. Navy/Marine Corps. We would use the branches of the shrubs as machine guns and make the sound effects of blasting guns and bombs. It never failed, vanity would prevail in the midst of war, and either Vivian or I would scream out, "Hold your fire! I need lipstick!", at which time Vivian and I took time to primp for battle.

William and I attended church at Immaculate Conception and were enrolled in the same First Holy Communion class. We got ticket stubs as points for attendance or some kind of reward, and they were redeemable at the end of the year, when the annual bazaar was held. I remember William and I walking around and looking at the tables to see what we could "buy" with our tickets. William was so sweet, he gave me some of his so I would have enough for a purchase.

I remember his voice, and how sweet he was. If I would have had a brother, William would have been him. We never fought, and I remember him looking out for me. I have always wondered whatever happened to him, and always thought to seek him out to see what we each remember about those days or one another. I am fairly certain William remembered me, and I'm sure fondly.

I have let the tears flow today, and probably will for a couple of days. On the bright side, when it's my turn to go, and I get to the other side, there are some wonderful people that will be there waiting for me. I expect one bad ass party!

William de Herrera

July 27, 1970 to November 2, 2006

Sammy

I had quite a bit of a scare with Sammy (my Angora Mini Lop bunny) last week.

About 2 weeks ago, Sammy's appetite slowed down, and he was sleeping more. Since there was a sudden drop in temperature, and bunnies do slow down during the winter, I thought that's what it was. However, when I noticed on Friday night (Dec. 3) that he had not eaten his pellets, I put fresh apples and cabbage in his cage. He ate, but his feces were black and small - not a good sign.

I took Sammy to his vet on Monday night, and Dr. Gallerstein thought he might be in pain or have the beginning of GI Stasis, a deadly and extemely painful shutdown of their digestive tract. He gave Sammy a prescription and told me to count the feces. I was really, really worried, but with medication and a box of fresh hay, Sammy is now doing very well. He is constantly eating (and pooping), and he seems more alert and happy. It took about 2 days for me to see results, and I made about 6 calls in that time. I was a panicked Mommy!

The very first rabbit I ever had was named Stu. I had bought him for an ex-boyfriend after we'd been playing with him in a pet store, and as we were leaving he stood up as if to ask, "Hey, where y'all going?". Long story short, I found out that this ex had been spanking Stu for no reason, so I took him home with me immediately. Stu loved me so much, when I would pick him up he'd put his paws on my chin and kiss me. Bunnies are not normally so affectionate. Unfortunately, I did not know anything about rabbits. Stu got GI Stasis and died in three days, in agony. I vowed it will never happen again.

Years later, I find Sammy, my Angora Minilop, at a tack and feed store that allows people to drop off their pets and livestock for adoption. It's June, North Inland San Diego when it's hot and dry. I see this strawberry blonde furball in the back of a hutch, trying to escape the sunlight that was inches and minutes (as the sunlight passed) from hitting him directly with no shade. I felt so bad for him, I adopted him. As soon as we got in my car, I put him on the passenger seat, but he hopped over and sat in my lap all the way home. That night, I placed him next to my pillow, and he sat there the entire night.

I decided to name him Sammy after Sam Kennison, the comedian, since my bunny had the same color hair and seemed to have an attitude. He didn't like for me to kiss him. I got nipped on the cheek and lip a few times because he did not approve of my affection. If he hid under or behind furniture, I would use a plastic hanger to scare him out. Instead, he would growl and box the hanger! I thought rabbits were prey...

Months later, Sammy started to go through puberty. I found out what it was the hard way: he was marking me as basically his bitch, by spraying me with urine. I got really tired and pissed of having to clean up, and change my clothes and bedding almost every day. Finally, one day after spraying me, I'd had enough. I got up, yelled at him, and grabbed him by the ears with my right hand. He lunged forward and bit into my left forearm. I had to pull him away, tearing my flesh, because he would not let go. Everyone told me to either take him to the Humane Society or release him out in the desert, where he would surely die.

Remembering his first day with me and how he got close to me immediately, but had defensive mannerisms, I thought there may be underlying reasons for his behavior. I think at some time, he was probably very loved, but maybe someone in his household turned out to be mean to him. So, I had a talk with him. I said, "Sammy, I am the only one who will take care of you. If I don't, you're dead. I love you, and I'm sorry for upsetting you and disrespecting you. Now, you need to respect me. Stop peeing on me and 'marking' me. I'm Mama, not your Girl. Be a good boy and this will work out." He never marked me again, and he only nipped my lip one more time.

It was 2005 when I adopted Sammy. I was very mobile and used to take him out for car rides on the weekends and the park now and then. He knew me when I was at my best, and when I'd gotten worse, and I fell in my room one day, he was scared for me. He ran into his cage, ran in circles, and hopped onto the top shelf of his cage as if to see if I was okay. When I had him neutered and picked him up, I cried and babied him. There was a fire in San Diego in 2007. Since I lived very close to the danger zone, I lined my car seat with blankets, set up food, water, and a makeshift litter box. I took him to work with me every day and left the windows open, checking on him on my breaks and lunch.

In 2009, I found a lump the size of a pea on his chin. He had an absess and it turned out to be in his right cheek as well. He needed surgery, and my poor Sammy had his cheek shaved, and got an inch-long incision in his cheek. I gave him medicine twice a day. When he didn't eat, I force-fed him using a huge syringe and powdered pellets with warm water. I gave him IV's so he would not get dehydrated, and I put him in bed with me at night for comfort.

I am not a hug-a-bunny activist, pardon the pun. I am not a vegetarian, nor a vegan, and I do not belong to or support PETA. I love animals. Our furry companions can't speak to us, but we learn to communicate with each other. Sammy has been in my life through some good times and bad. When I get good news, I pick him up and hold him, as I do, when I am sad. He doesn't hold grudges. He trusts me. I laugh at the things he does. Sammy is my fur angel. I love him and he knows it. I know that when he puts his head on my shoulder and chatters his teeth in contentment, he loves me too!

Tacones

Tacones is Spanish for high heels.  Yes, I could have titled this post "High Heels", but saying it in Spanish sounds sexy.  Say "tacones" as you look in the mirror.  It looks like you're saying something naughty.  That's how I feel when I wear mine...

I will be getting ready to go out in a little while and it just occurred to me, that while I know exactly what I'm going to wear, the shoes will be difficult to decide on.

I have at least 40 pairs of shoes, but only about 8 that I can wear. I no longer wear heels more than an inch and a half tall, and they have to either have an ankle strap, or have a strap that goes across the arch of my foot, so it doesn't accidentally slip off.

My favorite type of shoe has always been ankle straps pumps. They look so demure, yet something about them is incredibly sexy. Perhaps it's the strap, which suggests bondage. I have two pairs that I always wore Salsa dancing because I knew no matter how fast I was turned, the shoe was not going to slip off. The ones I used more were blood-red patent leather, and they attracted a lot of attention, and being the attention whore that I was, I lavished in it.

Heels are better than any chemical that can be ingested or applied, in my opinion. A woman can instantly go from 5'4" to 5'8". You can wear jeans and sneakers and go from kinda frumpy to vavoom with a pair of heels. The walk is transformed gloriously. The legs and back feel longer, the shoulders are squared, and the head is held up. You then walk one leg in front of the other. This makes the hips swing side to side. Wear a low-cut, snug sweater and a pencil skirt, and you are now a vixen. This is the part of my life I miss so much.

I still dress well, wear my make-up, and my hair is nicely coiffed. What I do not have is the heels and the walk that made me the Diva.

I still have those Nine West ankle straps, some silver heeled stilettos that look like sexy biker sandals, black patent-leather Coach maryjanes, others I refuse to do away with. Someday, I will build a showcase of my shoes.   I have great memories tied to them.

So I'm off. Time to get dolled up - just for a couple of errands...

Reminiscing

I've been thinking of my sister an awful lot lately. I mean, I think of her everyday, but she's in my subconscious. She's recently been in the forefront of my mind.

One thing that has been bothering me is that I have forgotten a lot of things in my life. I remember the jist of the event, but not so much the details. Similarly, I cannot remember as much about Daniella as I would love to.

I have so many regrets. I wish this and that, but I will not torture myself with those thoughts. Things were as they were, and not solely of my own volition.

I do have more to be grateful for when it comes to Daniella. I remember us being little and playing cars, school, Barbies, and going outside to play with the neighborhood kids. We liked the same movies. I remember when we were little, Mom and Dad would take us to watch the typical kiddie movies: Snow White, Cinderella, etc. First, it was great because Mom would make burritos and bring candy and sodas, so we had a feast during the movie. It never failed, though. After the movie, as other kids were being escorted out by their parents, my sister and I were sitting there crying and being comforted by out parents. Not because the movie was sad, but because it was OVER!! I have never heard anyone else tell such a pathetic reaction to a movie.

We thought it was cool how some twins have a unique capability of devising a secret language. No we weren't twins, but my sister and I loved going to stores and pretending to have a secret language. We had nonsensical "conversations" which included questions and laughing. I don't even know if people listened to us. I just remember we had fun doing it.

I've been going through counseling ever since Daniella left, but my grief and devastation is not significantly lower. I have her pictures and her beloved Papa Bear in my room, and they make me smile, but I always have this lump in my throat. My sister and I had not been getting along for the previous 5 or 6 years, but thankfully, had made peace with each other. I told her that I love her and didn't want our parents' funerals to be the next time I saw her, and that I don't want to argue with her anymore. My brother-in-law told me she was happy about that. I am, too, but I expected us to be getting closer during this very time period.

One thing that really hurts is that someone she was close to most of her life, and I had become close to as well, is no longer part of my life. There was an incident that resulted in this person verbally assaulting me, making false accusations against me that were so very hateful. Unfortunately, I was in a situation that because of my lack of mobility and other circumstances, I had to shut up. I am still very enraged over this, but I know I need to eventually forgive this person so that God can do His justice. 

My counselor tells me I am doing well with my grief. I suppose I am. I have not given up on my life or my dreams. I think I have done well in being there even more for my parents. I even want to do more now to make my Sister proud of me. My Faith is strong, so I know someday she will greet me and give me a big hug. For now, I want to live my life in the most positive way so that I will see her after my final hour and the other people I have loved in my life.

Until then, I will hold on to the memories.  Memories of us hearing a child fall at church and using our fingers to count the first scream.  Memories of me trying to teach her to dance, and listening to her Pink Panther laugh.  I was blessed to have had her in my life, and she will always be a part of it, always in my heart.

Zemblanity

Serendipity, according to Wikipedia, is "making fortuitous discoveries while looking for something unrelated". An example would be Christopher Columbus seeking a new route to India, and inadvertently discovering America. Zemblanity is the opposite of Serendipity. I find it very curious that this is now a defunct word. So much so, that it is an invalid word for Scrabble. I have no examples other than my story.

Last winter, I was heading to see my mechanic about an oil leak. It was just after sunset, when there is barely any sunlight left, and the streetlights have not gotten to their full brightness. I'm driving along a section of fairly dark road, and I suddenly see an oh-so-brief glimpse of a man either dark-skinned or wearing dark clothing in front of me, with his hand was outstretched in a "STOP!" motion. I seem to remember seeing a flash of turquoise. I then remember hearing a huge "thud" on my car and I remember being pulled over, screaming.

I get out of the car, crying and screaming, "What happened!". I see a woman behind my car, visibly stunned, who indicates she is the man's mother-in-law. Another woman who had been driving behind me had pulled over and asked if I was okay. She said she hadn't seen the man either, and almost hit him after he'd flipped over my car. She gave me a hug and went where the man lay. I sat in my car and waited for the police to come to my car. The questioning is somewhat of a blur. I remember only telling them the brief details that I remember.. I try not to guess anything, because dispite my shock, I know how these things can come back to haunt you.

I am stunned and don't remember anything during that time period except that I did not have my car for about a month, my performance at work became unsatisfactory, oh, and the man died the following day. He was 61, and his wife and mother-in-law were picking him up after work. He was on the south side of the street and crossed to meet them on the north side, and had J-walked in front of me from my left. An investigating officer spoke to me a couple of weeks after, explaining in detail all of the forensics that had been done on my car and the road. I was driving under the speed limit, braked, and tried to steer out of the way. In essence, I was told, there was nothing I could have done to avoid the accident, I did everything I could to avoid it, and had he lived, he would have been cited.

How do I feel? Disgusted. Talking to the officer helps ease my conscience. I then get angry. How could that man do this to his family, taking such a risk?  Why didn't his wife pick him up on the other side of the street? Having lost my sister back in July, nothing could come close to being so tragic. I don't feel guilty. I feel that God has His plan, and this man's time was up. For whatever reason, God chose me to deliver him. I can't question it, and I don't have the energy to get angry at God. I'm still dealing with my sister being gone. I make an emotional "bookmark" of this and continue on...

Medusa

Medusa was a beautiful priestess in Athena's temple. She and Poseidon " Lord of the Sea" lay together in Athena's temple and out of rage, Athena turned Medusa's beautiful tresses into serpents, and her face so terrible to behold that she would turn anyone who looked at her into stone. Medusa has since become womens's icon for rage. I have entertained the thought for many years of getting a Medusa tramp stamp.

I read my friend's blog today and it broke my heart. Her grandfather passed away, and she'd had a dream about his passing and thought of one of his favorite songs just hours before she had found out the terrible news. I can't help but think it was him telling her he had left. I was very saddened because in reading about his life, I wish I'd known him. I would loved to have listened to him talking about his travels, his adventures, his loves, his losses. I guess I'm just very sentimental, or maybe I was channeling her loss. I just have not been able to get rid of this lump in my throat.

On Facebook today, someone I've not talked to or seen in 20 years gave me a Friend Request. Of course I accepted! Mike is someone I met 20 years ago on a plane from San Diego to El Paso when I was returning from visiting Missy on January 3, 1990. Mike and I had been checking each other out since the plane departed San Diego, and when it stopped in Phoenix, I moved and sat by him...not him come sit by ME; I was the "aggressor". We talked continuously until we reached El Paso, but we did not say goodbye there. We continued to talk over the next few months, and he went to Alamogordo to see me about six months later. Yes, we had a hot weekend. We wanted more, but there were issues, like he was in San Diego--oh, yeah, and I was engaged. So he calls me as soon as I accept his friend request, and we spent about three hours talking and reminiscing. He tells me he's been looking for me for years, especially the past five--and I was the love of his life. Woah...

So ANYway...

I just read someone's blog bitchin' and bellyachin' (as Liberals do) about Arizona's SB1070 Bill. He called upon the Tea Party to intercede because they "stand against intrusion by government against the rights of individuals". Does this guy not know what the Tea Party back in 1773 was a revolt dealing with TAXES?? Therefore, would common sense not tell Idiot that the New American Tea Party has to do with taxes? Infact, the Tea Party Movement is a "coalition of citizens and organizations concerned with the recent trend of fiscal recklessness in government". Additionally, the Tea Party is all about the Constitution and vehemently against the Governments refusal to adhere to it. Illegals receiving financial aid of any kind and NOT being deported is clearly non-adherence to the Constitution. I think he means the ACLU. God knows those pieces of Liberal shit stand up for anything. Remember when they defended NAMBLA?? Google that one. It infuriates me to see someone make blanket statements and not back them up. Liberals use the same lines that are fed to them by that Pelosi C.U.N.extT.uesday and her puppet, B.H.O. Rarely do they use statistics or facts. Rarely do they take the time to truly educate themselves about the issues. SB1070 is clearly unread and misunderstood.

Tonight I went out for coffee with Rich. We talked, but our conversations are just not as heartfelt (on my part) anymore. He asks questions, trying to seek something to talk about, and I am a little short and just say "yes" or "no, no, no". He thinks after telling me he won't ever marry me that things will stay the same: hugging, kisssing, sex. Right. I am deliberately showing him the difference now. I don't kiss him. I don't see him everyday. I tell him about Mike. I don't tell him about Clyde, but I do let him know that there are men that want me. I am certain that he will someday regret letting me go. I just hope he tells me someday so I can gloat internally. He will not be the first. Many have come back years later, telling me how much they missed me, how much they learned from me, how much they regretted letting me go. I can't help but think that in that sense, I have affected them in a Medusa sort of way.

Esperanza

Esperanza is my Catholic Confirmation name, which is Spanish for Hope, and that is something I am putting into this new medication -- and that God agrees with me on it.

I got in touch with my cousin, Chem, today. Yes, it's pronounced like it's spelled, not "kem" like some sci-fi killer doctor. We were discussing the family, and I told her how my Dad has an even stronger sense of loyalty to my Mom's side of the family after my sister's death. My cousins Cindy, Francisco, his wife, and my Tia Nicky (on my Mom's side) either flew in or drove 5-6 hours just to attend my sister's funeral. The whole time I was in Arlington I don't recall my Dad's phone ringing with HIS side asking about my sister as she lay in a coma, or checking on Dad after she'd died. Then again, I wasn't paying attention to much, but I am a little pissed about that. Okay, as my therapist would say, I'm hurt, but that I use anger as a defense. What's the difference? Hurt, pissed, these are feelings that I've mastered at suppressing or resolving on my own. Besides, I get motivated to act when I'm angry. Sadness is for wimps and doesn't accomplish anything but self-pity and crying. Somewhere in my subconscious is a boneyard full of gnarliness and mournful, angry spirits waiting to arise. I'll bookmark this and revisit later. For now, I'll supress it.

Didja get that, Chris?

FlorEspinoza

Florespinoza is derived from my Grandmothers' maiden names. Francisca Flores was my Maternal Grandmother's name. She died around 1940 of cervical cancer. My Paternal Grandmother, Mama Pepa, was Josefa Espinoza. I remember Mama Pepa at her kitchen table, sewing, when I was little. She made Papa Bear, Daniella's teddybear, a cute cordorouy suit. Rob was gracious enough to give him to me after Daniella left, and I have him in it, sitting on my desk. So when you put the two names together as FlorEspinoza, it translates to "thorny flower", which is how I feel sometimes. My mother likes the name.

Losing my balance and my mobility slowing down has been devastating to me. I was that confident, bitchy and girly-girl that women admired but were jealous of, wearing the high heels working my ghetto bootie with the side to side ass-movement, just like a runway walk. I liked wearing my low-cut blouses for slight jiggle effect (because they're firm, not flabby), or not-TOO-short skirts showing off my thick thighs and accentuating my bubble butt. I was always nicknamed "Sexy Raquel", but made sure never to venture to the sleazy side. I always had somewhere to go, and made a presentation of it, as I do have a great sense of style and flair. Boy, did I work it!

My passion, and perhaps my biggest loss, is dancing. I was getting pretty damn good at Salsa, and my ass is perfect for Merengue. I had developed my style of flutter-step for Cha-Cha, and loved doing my "disco" flairs with my arms and hands. The Salsa scene is like a caste society, especially at Cafe Sevilla. An excellent dancer may choose to dance with a lower-level dancer, but that lower-level cannot dance "up". I was gradually moving up, frequently dancing with one "upper-level" man I used to love watching. Then again, maybe he danced with me because I'd slept with him a couple of times, so he knew I had good rhythm. Regardless, dancing is my passion, and I refuse to believe I will never dance again. I'm just calling it a hiatus, and will take up Tango and perhaps Samba (a very difficult Brazillian dance) when I make my return debut.

I subscribed to my friend's blog, and another guy whose name escapes me. I feel like quite the novice having read them both. They are really great writers and have links and everything attached to their blogs. I feel like the Freshman on the Varsity football team. I can attach photos, but links? Songs? Videos? Fuggetaboutit.

I'm listening to the Tropical station on Music Choice TV right now. It's Fania All Stars, and I feel a stirring in my gut and pain in my heart. I'm holding back tears because the desire to move and dance is so intense. Me siento como una flor espinoza en este momento...

Balance

I have to balance my last blog with something less abrasive. I do not intend for this to be my political platform. This is simply my space for my thoughts and emotions.

Everyday I think of my sister, Daniella, but it still is a lot to wrap my arms around and accept. So I sometimes escape and pretend I simply need to call her and then pretend to be putting it off another day. This helps. It puts me in denial because I think she is at work, or at home with her pets, or at the lake. Truth is, she's in a dark box with her Prada bag at her side. Truth is, she is probably right here, reading this, maybe sitting next to me and hugging me.

I am not at peace with my Sister being gone. I wish it had been me. She had more to live for. It's just not fair and I wish God would make my purpose known. I obviously am not good at figuring it out. Can't You just be clear on what You want from me?

Thoughts of my sister make me think of others who have gone or may be ill, or I may reminisce on the past randomly. Lately, I've been thinking a lot about my friend's Dad. He's had diabetes for quite some time, but he has not been taking care of himself at all. He is now on dialysis and I hear he needs to have one leg and some toes removed. Because his circulation is bad, it can't be done, or else the wounds won't heal. If it's not done, he can get a deadly infection.

It just saddens me to hear L tell me all this. She knows her Dad is now on borrowed time. I miss being a kid. I miss seeing her Dad J, tall, slim, with his handlebar moustache, holding a beer and wearing a smile. I remember him asking me anything at all and seeing him smile, visibly ready to ask another question or crack a joke. I remember the Farah poster he had on the door to storage in back of the house. She says he's always angry now and doesn't want to see anyone. I know that when she calls me to break the news, I will rush home and be at her side. L is like a sister to me. I will be one of her few friends who will be able to to make her laugh after his funeral as we reminisce about J and his antics.

My emotions are more in balance now, no longer angry and fired up. I am mournful and melancholy, but these are emotions that I know well how to reign.

Arizona

So someone on Facebook put a totally bullshit post on her page about the new Illegal Immigration bill in Arizona today. She had the audacity to compare this to Nazi Germany and even said she is a history buff. Perhaps, but not an EDUCATED history buff.

No additional identification needs to be carried by illegals than what is currently required. The required documentation has been the same since 1940. Further, one will not be asked their status unless a crime is involved. In other words, if they abide by our laws, they are safe. The only difference now is that if you are an Illegal and commit a crime, ICE will be called in and you may be hauled back "home" rather than suck up our tax dollars in jail!! Law enforcement is not going to stop people to ask for their resident status. READ THE FUCKING BILL, DUMB FUCK!!!!

The Jews in Nazi Germany were systematically targeted for extermination by Adolf Hitler. All Jews were sent to the Ghetto and eventually (and tragically), Concentration Camps. They were not sent back to Jerusalem. They were killed!! See the difference?? There is simply no comparison. Our country is made up of immigrants from all nations and ethnicities. If you want to talk about Mexicans, how many are in Office? Are they being removed from office? Oh HELL no! Again, comparing this to Nazi Germany is just idiotic and a desperate reach from the far Left. Tell me again how Arizona is like Nazi Germany!

I refuse to call Illegals, "Undocumented". If you did not follow the legal procedures to be here, then you are here illegally. You have committed a felony. Period.

Quite simply, I don't see the big deal over the Arizona bill. Perhaps because I am American and a law-abiding citizen. I do not see it as racist. I see us sick and fucking tired of Congress playing with their pussies on this and finally taking an extra measure to protect our country. I truly hope other states follow Arizona.

I am sorry if you have to find a way to support your family. Get a work Visa. There are legal ways to become American. My Grandfather knew the Preamble to the Constitution. Do you? Probably not. And no, you cannot say it in Spanish, German, Chinese, or any other language except ENGLISH!

Clyde...

Clyde's birthday is coming up. It's been six years since I've seen him and I can't NOT see him anymore. I'm his Bonnie, and have been from the first time we talked. Some things never change, right?

I got a deep root cleaning on the left side of my mouth. My hygenist used Novacaine and Nitrous. That is like being numb and drunk but not sleepy. For a split-second I don't know where I was, and I saw this leather binder that looked familiar. It was about 24 inches long and 16 inches high with a burgundy leather binder and a cloudlike design with gold on it and a faded image of a woman's profile, whom I assume is me. I think I saw God's binder for me. Is it my "Book of Life" that I've read about? I've seen it before, but never open. I wonder what that means.

My face felt so distorted afterward, I felt like a Picasso and sounded "thtupid" trying to talk. I went to Starbucks afterward and had to suck the straw with the right side of my mouth. I couldn't pucker my lips to suck! Ha ha!

Last night Clyde and I texted each other for about an hour. He doesn't call me, maybe because we talk and just don't seem to get our shit together and see each other. Our first night together was so dead-on perfect we should have run with it. The first time he kissed me was the best kiss I have ever experienced in my life! My two girlfriends and I were waiting outside a nightclub for a private party and I had invited Clyde. I see him and his friend turn the corner and walk down the street toward us. He looks just like David Duchovny. EXACTLY - and yes, he is HOT. He and his friend are both wearing suits. Clyde is wearing khaki dress pants, a white shirt with cufflinks and the top two buttons undone, and a navy blazer with gold buttons. As he is getting closer, our eyes lock. He finally reaches me, puts his left hand behind my neck, his right arm around my waist, and pulls me to him. He kisses me passionately and I felt like only he and I were in existence at that very moment. It was movie perfect, and I remember my friends looking at me afterward like, "who the hell is this guy?". Later that evening, we went to his Suburban to be alone (we couldn't leave his friend stranded) and had the best makeout session. I think we knew then, like we know now, that our lives would have changed as of that moment. I don't know why, but I never saw him again, although we talked many times after. He did ask me to go up to LA numerous times, but I didn't. Now it's too late. The moment is long gone and I am not the same woman anymore.  He's a true Alpha male and frankly, although he is gorgeous, intelligent, and wealthy, he is not the type to ever marry, and will probably never be monogamous. How do I know this? I found out he is in a relationship with someone that he says he will be with "long term", yet never marry. But, he keeps asking to see me, wanting to take me to a four star restaurant and expensive hotel and spend the night experiencing what we should have six years ago. It's never going to happen. I stopped answering his texts, and he has finally stopped. I will always remember that night, though, and wonder what would have happened. For someone who's motto is "live with no regrets", that is one of many.

Wednesday

Today is Wednesday. The day "Soloman Grundy" got married, and according to "Winnie the Pooh and the Blustery Day", disagreeable weather occurs on "Winds-day". Wednesday is also the nickname my friend Melissa gives our dispositions as teenagers -- Wednesday Adams. Nice.

I woke up around 4 a.m. feeling little pains in my tummy and having to take a piss. Sammy had gotten out of his cage and was under my bed making noises and I hoped he hadn't been munching on my Crocs under there. When I sat up, I felt Sammy's nose against my toes, and I reached down to feel that his ears were cold.

He didn't run from me, which told me he wanted me to pet him, so I scooped him up and put him on my bed while I went to the pisser. When I got back, I put him on my pillow and Sammy snuggled next to me for about an hour so he could get warm. Bunnies are very sociable, so he made sure to let me know he wanted my hand on the top of his head. He does this by either burrowing his head under my hand, or giving a gentle, but painful nibble with those front inscisors.

I thought about my sister today, but not a day goes by that I don't. My sister Daniella died on July 4, 2009 of a brain aneurysm at the age of 36. Independence Day has a different meaning for me now. This to me is my sister's birthday in Heaven, and her independence from this life. Afterall, is this life not in a sense a temporary incarceration from Heaven? I'm not hating on life, I must have this perspective to always keep in mind that my sister is "in a better place".

Independence Day. My sister now has a national holiday; let me explain. I've always been about correlating birthdays, anniversaries, and deaths with holidays, or historic events. My birthday, June 6 is D-Day, which is the day in 1944 that the Allied troops launched Operation Neptune, or more commonly known as the Normandy Invasion during WWII. My Dad's birthday is November 11, Veteran's Day, and my parents' anniversary is December 7, Pearl Harbor Day, which puts my Mom in my National Holiday Circle by default. Although Daniella got married on Valentine's Day, it doesn't count because it's not attributed to any US battles. Get my thought process here? Independence Day. Wow, Sis, you picked quite a day. The day after Jim Morrison's anniversary, and the day before Mina's. 7-4-09. In numerology, this comes to number 2. God ordered Noah to put two of each animal on the Arc. Two sisters, now one. Two, my second blog post...